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Am I Responsible If Someone Falls On My Property?
The safety experts, from just about any industry, will tell you that there is no such thing as an accident. Everything is preventable. Despite this optimistic view on safety, the fact of the matter is that accidents do happen and the owner of the property, where an accident occurs, may be responsible for injuries.
Employers typically take the responsibility for injuries on the job with workers compensation claims, but when it’s a private residence, homeowners and business owners need to understand their own responsibility and how to protect their assets.
Keep in mind that when someone comes to your property, they come with an implied reasonable expectation of not getting injured during the visit.
How Responsibility Is Determined
Slips, trips and falls lead to thousands of injuries each year. And they can take place just about anywhere there’s a hazard such as icy sidewalks, spills on floors, loose steps or an uneven surface. The causes are endless and if the property owner knew about the hazard prior to the accident and did nothing to stop it, then there’s a good chance they are liable.
To make the actual legal determination of liability and hold a property owner legally responsible for injuries and move forward with any action, one of the following factors must be judged as true.
- The owner was aware of the dangerous condition and did nothing to correct the problem prior to the visitor entering the property.
- The property owner was unaware of the dangerous situation, but should have known in the eyes of a “reasonable person.”
- The owner of the property knowingly created an unsafe condition that led to the injury.
Decisions on legal liability come from common sense, even if it takes a lengthy process to reach the end result. When it comes down to a judge or jury making a ruling, they look for information that leads them to believe that the owner of a property took adequate steps to keep their property safe. The law focuses on whether or not an owner made a consistent effort to maintain a safe property, clean and in compliance with the proper codes.
More factors for determining liability could include the following:
- What is the length of time a potentially dangerous situation existed and was there enough time for the owner to become aware and then repair the condition?
- Did the owner make the attempt to correct the condition and were those actions adequate?
- If the victims actions could be deemed careless, did they contribute to the cause of the accident?
The last bullet mentions what’s known as “comparative negligence”, which allows for the injured person to be held responsible for their own injury in cases where they ignored posted warnings or simply acted careless prior to the accident taking place.
Comparative negligence laws vary from state to state, and they are used to figure out who receives compensation and how much. Often comparative negligence doesn’t completely eliminate liability on the part of the property owner, but these laws if applied, can adjust the amount of compensation a victim receives. It essentially allows for shared responsibility in response to an accident.
How Much Compensation Is Appropriate?
Finding the appropriate amount of compensation comes from the real amount of damages incurred, which can include medical costs and income lost due to time off work. Those pieces can be easily determined. Where it becomes more difficult is figuring out the compensation for pain and suffering as a result of the accident. No law exists to clearly outline how much should be paid to an individual for specific injuries. It’s not always that simple.
Some formulas, generated by previous judgments handed down, can be used as a starting point, but every settlement is typically done by negotiation. These types of cases can be settled out of court when both sides agree on a figure that will encompass the hard costs, such as medical bills, and what is needed to compensate for the pain and suffering endured.
When a victim and a property owner fail to reach a settlement and the case goes all the way to a trial, juries will assign the final payment by adding in funds for pain and suffering. If the victim is unsuccessful at the trial, of course, there could be no compensation.
As you might assume, the impact on the victim’s life or the severity of the injuries directly affects the amount of compensation for pain and suffering.
Who Is Visiting Your Property?
Broadly speaking, visitors to a property fit within four designations — invitee, social guest, licensee or trespasser.
- The invitee has simply been invited onto the property. This includes customers in a store or other place of business. The invitation in that case is implied.
- A licensee is present at the consent of the property owner. This could be a contractor in the home or business there to perform a task such as making repairs or cleaning.
- A social guest is a welcome, if uninvited, guest. This accounts for friends or known individuals who are welcome to just “stop by.”
- The trespasser has no right whatsoever to enter a property and therefore has no implied promise that the property has been made reasonably safe.
The type of person visiting makes a big difference in the viability of a potential lawsuit or it can even make a case disappear quickly. Knowing this information and proving it will help any property owner understand what they may be facing in an injury case.
Speaking with an experienced attorney will help a property owner clearly understand their liability in cases where an injury has occurred. Make sure to protect your legal rights when it comes to visitors at your home or business. The knowledgeable personal injury lawyers at Rosenbaum & Associates can provide the experience you need to ensure that claims are valid and your rights are protected. The first step to take is a free consultation. Call us today to learn more at 1-800-7-LEGAL-7.
Can you be forced to file for bankruptcy?
Nearly all bankruptcy cases involving consumers are voluntary. In these cases, the consumer decides for himself or herself that filing for bankruptcy is the right choice for him or her. Voluntary bankruptcy petitions are what most people think about when they consider bankruptcy under Chapter 7 or Chapter 13.
It is possible in some cases for a debtor to be forced to file bankruptcy, however, in these types, creditors initiate the actions by filing bankruptcy petitions against the debtors. While they are legally allowed to do so, most creditors do not do this, making them very rare.
RULES FOR FILING INVOLUNTARY BANKRUPTCY CASES
Creditors are not allowed to file involuntary bankruptcy cases under Chapter 13. Chapter 13 bankruptcy cases involve the debtor’s entering into a repayment plan lasting between three and five years, during which they make payments to pay their creditors. Involuntary cases cannot be filed under this chapter, and they also aren’t allowed to be filed against fisherman, farmers, or a wife and husband jointly.
There are only two situations under which involuntary cases may be filed. Single creditors may initiate involuntary bankruptcy proceedings if the debtors have less than 12 unsecured creditors, and the petitioning creditor’s claim is an unsecured one of $15,325 or more. Three creditors or more may jointly file involuntary bankruptcy petitions if the debtors have 12 or more creditors, and the moving creditors’ claims total $15,325 or more.
WHY DEBTORS ARE RARELY FORCED TO FILE BANKRUPTCY
Most creditors have difficulty meeting the criteria for filing involuntary bankruptcy petitions. In cases in which they do meet the filing criteria, many are reluctant to do so for multiple reasons. The bankruptcy code gives consumers very powerful protections. In some cases, debtors also have powerful advantages over their unsecured creditors through the law as well. This means that creditors oftentimes do far worse in bankruptcy cases than do the consumers who owe them money. If the involuntary bankruptcy case is dismissed by the bankruptcy court, the creditor or creditors who petitioned for it may be ordered to pay all of the associated attorneys’ fees, court costs and compensatory and punitive damages.
THE OPTIONS A DEBTOR HAS WHEN AN INVOLUNTARY BANKRUPTCY CASE IS FILED
When an involuntary bankruptcy petition is filed, the consumer has several choices. He or she may decide to continue on with the case. Chapter 7 bankruptcy often provides advantages for the debtor, making it potentially attractive to him or her. A debtor may also move to convert the bankruptcy petition from Chapter 7 to Chapter 13. The debtor may also contest the action.
How Is Child Support Treated by the Bankruptcy Process?
Child support obligations cannot be dismissed under either Chapter 7 or Chapter 13 bankruptcy. Bankruptcy will also not eliminate arrears for anyone who has gotten behind in child support payments. However, bankruptcy may allow someone to catch up on child support payments.
Courts view domestic support obligations, such as child support or alimony, as priority debts. It can also be any type of debt that is meant for support or maintenance of another person. If the child support or alimony was established through a property, divorce or separation agreement by court order or by a child support enforcement agency, the debt is not dischargable in any bankruptcy proceeding.
CHILD SUPPORT AND CHAPTER 7
Under Chapter 7 bankruptcy, an automatic stay keeps most creditors from continuing collection proceedings. However, that stay does not apply to what are known as domestic debts, like child support and alimony. Someone who has filed or plans to file for bankruptcy may still have child support orders filed against them and collection proceedings continue.
Bankruptcy protections do not prevent child support officials from seizing property that is protected during and after the process. Because child support is considered a priority debt, it cannot be discharged during bankruptcy. Anyone who has been ordered to pay child support or alimony must continue to make payments during the bankruptcy process. Priority debts are paid before any other debts, which means the bankruptcy trustee can actually help the child support officer collect past due payments through the sale or seizure of non-exempt assets without the need for an additional legal action.
CHILD SUPPORT AND CHAPTER 13
Just as in Chapter 7 bankruptcy, child support cannot be discharged through the proceedings. However, it is possible that someone who files Chapter 13 bankruptcy could bring their child support up-to-date. In fact, in many states, child support must be paid in full through the repayment plan arranged by the trustee.
Paying child support could actually reduce the amount that must be paid to unsecured creditors since it is a priority debt. A Chapter 13 bankruptcy stay, unlike the one issued in Chapter 7, requires a creditor, even child support officers, from initiating action to collect since all earnings are considered the property of the bankruptcy estate. It is very importantto keep child support payments up-to-date throughout the bankruptcy proceedings as the trustee could lift the stay and allow child support officers to seize earnings even though they are property of the estate.
If you have a child support or alimony order that has been issued by a court or enforcement agency, and you are considering filing for bankruptcy, it is critical that you speak to an attorney regarding your situation. Call 1-866-96-GMLAW or complete our simple contact form to set up a consultation to discuss your situation with an attorney who can provide you with the information you need.
I’m Going to File for Bankruptcy, Should I Stop Paying Creditors?
When you make the decision to file for bankruptcy, you may have many questions regarding what steps you should take before you file. Because bankruptcy is a federal proceeding, you may be intimidated by the process and want to make sure you don’t do anything that could either jeopardize your case or incur penalties.
One of the most common questions asked is regarding the payment of creditors when you realize you will need to file bankruptcy. The answer to this question depends on several factors.
If you have loans that are secured by property, such as a mortgage or vehicle loan, you should view them differently than debt that is unsecured.
In the case of a mortgage, your personal liability for the mortgage is eliminated when a bankruptcy is discharged, but it does not eliminate the lien on your property, which means the bank can sell it to recover its losses. If you have a second mortgage on your home, it is considered a junior lien, as your first mortgage is considered a higher priority than a second.
You should continue making payments on your first mortgage if possible throughout your bankruptcy process. However, you can discontinue making payments on a second mortgage as it will be eliminated through your bankruptcy.
If you want to keep your car, you will need to continue making payments. However, if you are filing Chapter 13 bankruptcy, you may be able to pay your vehicle payments through the repayment plan. This may also be true of your mortgage. In this case, you do not have to send separate payments to your creditors outside the bankruptcy payment.
Most credit cards and medical bills are both unsecured debt. According to a study conducted by NerdWallet Health, a division of a price-comparison website, nearly two million people were expected to file bankruptcy after incurring significant medical bills in 2013.
Both credit card and medical bills are discharged through your bankruptcy, so paying them prior to filing will not be beneficial. However, if you don’t plan to file for bankruptcy for several months, discontinuing payments to credit card companies, and sometimes even healthcare agencies, could lead them to file a lawsuit against you in an effort to recover the debt.
ALIMONY, CHILD SUPPORT, TAX LIENS AND STUDENT LOANS
Alimony and child support are not discharged through bankruptcy. Chapter 13 bankruptcy will allow you to include any arrearage in your repayment plan, however. In order for tax debt to be discharged, you must meet all of the following conditions:
- The taxes are income taxes;
- You did not file a fraudulent return to willfully evade paying taxes;
- The debt is at least three years old;
- You filed a tax return; and
- The debt must have been assessed by the IRS at least 240 days before you file for bankruptcy.
Even if your tax debt can be discharged, if the government has filed a lien on your property, it will not be eliminated. Although you are no longer responsible for the debt, you will be required to pay the debt if you choose to sell your property.
Student loan debt is often not discharged in bankruptcy unless you can prove that paying the loan would cause undue hardship.
If you are considering filing bankruptcy, you need to seek the advice of a qualified bankruptcy attorney. Contact our office today online or by telephone to set up your initial consultation in order to learn what steps you should take to begin the process of starting a fresh financial future.
3 Tips to Avoid Bankruptcy Scams
REQUESTS FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION OVER THE PHONE
Any company claiming to specialize in bankruptcy will not ask for your personal information over the phone. In fact, most attorneys require a meeting in person before they will begin the process for filing bankruptcy. If you are asked for a credit card or social security number over the phone, there is a chance that it may be a scam. The best way to be sure that you are not being scammed is to talk to your attorney at your initial interview about how you wish to be contacted and how you wish to relay personal information. By doing this, if someone does attempt to get information from you in a way that was not agreed upon, you can be sure it was a scam.
PHONE CALLS AFTER BUSINESS HOURS
Although some attorneys may contact clients in the evening, the majority reach out to them during regular business hours when their office is open. According to the National Association of Consumer Bankruptcy Attorneys, one of the biggest red flags is a phone call after hours demanding payment when it is difficult for you to reach your attorney. Never provide payment information to someone who calls after hours. Instead, inform them that you will need to speak to the attorney during regular business hours. Again, by speaking to your attorney about when they will contact you, it is less likely you will fall victim to fraud.
In the United States, you cannot be arrested for past due debt. Therefore, a legitimate attorney will never threaten you with arrest if you don’t file for bankruptcy. They will also never ask for immediate payment over the phone to help you file bankruptcy. If you get a call threatening you with arrest or demanding immediate payment for your bankruptcy filing, hang up immediately.
It is important to understand that today’s con artists are more convincing than ever due to technology, so it is important to avoid falling victim to someone who sounds as if they are legitimate. Because bankruptcy is a federal court proceeding, you need an attorney to file the documents and make sure they are in order. If you are considering bankruptcy, contact us today to arrange for an initial consultation to review your case. You can reach us by phone or through our simple website form.
Article by: Rosenbaum & Associates, Injury Law
The Shocking Frequency of Hospital Infections
Infection is a huge risk in today’s hospitals, with a report from the United States Centers For Disease Control indicating that a shocking 1 in 25 patients battle hospital-acquired infections (HAI) on any given day. In 2011, a tragic 75,000 patients died due to HAI. The CDC has since taken major steps to reduce the prevalence of infections in healthcare settings. Results are mixed thus far, but statistics indicating a 17 percent decrease in surgical site infections and an 11 percent decrease in catheter-associated urinary tract infections in long-term healthcare facilities are promising.
Despite small signs of progress, hospital infection remains a huge risk in most hospitals — and one of which many patients are entirely unaware. A basic understanding of the prevalence of hospital-borne infections can help patients prepare for hospital stays — and can help those who have suffered due to infection fight back.
Common Types of Infection
Urinary Tract Infections
The CDC reports that urinary tract infections are the most common type of HAI. In hospitals, 75 percent of urinary tract infections can be attributed to catheter use. Risk of infection increases substantially when catheters are not replaced frequently enough.
Surgical Site Infection
If direct skin-to-skin contact occurs during surgery, the patient may develop a surgical site infection. Although these infections are sometimes limited to the skin, they can be more severe and involve the organs or tissues beneath the skin’s surface. According to a study published in the journal Infection Control and Hospital Epidemiology, surgical site infections have a three percent mortality rate and make up over eight percent of all hospital-acquired infections.
Staph infections are largely spread by skin-to-skin contact, and they may result from insufficient handwashing, lack of proper clothing barriers (such as gloves), or physical contact with an infected patient. Additionally, staph infections can be spread through contact with objects, such as sinks, tables, or chairs. Several types of staph infection exist, but medical professionals are most wary of Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA), which is resistant to antibiotics and therefore incredibly difficult to treat. The CDC estimates that MRSA infections occur at an alarming rate of 3.9 per 1,000 patients.
An infection of the lungs that typically appears two days after the patient has been admitted, hospital-acquired pneumonia is often fatal. The infection is most common in patients who have had chest surgery, who use respirators, and especially among those with immune systems weakened as a result of cancer treatments. Hospital-acquired pneumonia can be attributed to neglect if staff members do not wash their hands often enough or if they fail to observe unalert patients while eating — these patients may swallow improperly and get food in their lungs, leading to infection.
Clostridium Difficile Infection
Under ordinary circumstances, clostridium difficile is nothing more than another bacteria residing in the intestines. However, if an infection occurs, the bacteria may grow quickly, releasing harmful toxins that attack the intestines. Infection often occurs in response to gastrointestinal surgeries, although use of antibiotics is also a risk factor. Symptoms of clostridium difficile include abdominal pain, watery diarrhea, and in severe cases, stool with blood or pus.
Who is Most Susceptible to Infection?
While all patients are at risk of infection, some patients are far more vulnerable than others. Young children and elderly patients are notoriously susceptible, but infection also commonly strikes new mothers who have just given birth, cancer patients, and patients who are HIV positive. Chronic conditions can also increase susceptibility to infection. Researchers believe that genetics play a huge role as well, although the genetic abnormalities that increase susceptibility can be difficult to identify. Unfortunately, those who are most susceptible to infection are also the most likely to require hospital visits, leaving them at risk the moment they enter the hospital. Infection can be avoided through exceptional sanitation and adherence to a variety of precautionary measures, but even a small misstep can prove deadly.
Infection and Personal Injury Law
In medical settings, infection can be a sign of negligence, although it can be challenging to Prove. The fact that you or loved one acquired an infection in the hospital does not establish negligence. Infections are a risk with any invasive procedure. Hospitals and employees can be found at fault if there is sufficient evidence pointing to a failure to abide by accepted healthcare practices. However, it remains the burden of the legal team to come up with the preponderance of evidence needed to hold responsible parties accountable and to secure the damages suffering patients so desperately need.
Infection is shockingly prevalent in the hospital environment, and unless healthcare providers are held accountable, the problem is not likely to go away.
The legal team at Rosenbaum & Associates can help you achieve justice and secure the compensation you deserve. For a free consultation, call 1-800-7-LEGAL-7 today.
What You Should Avoid Before Filing Bankruptcy
Once you have made the decision to file bankruptcy, you may feel relief in the understanding that you can make a fresh start. You know that the collection calls will stop and that the stress will be reduced after you begin the process. Too often, however, people who are preparing to file for bankruptcy make mistakes that can lead to their bankruptcy being dismissed. Even worse, some of these errors can lead to fraud charges if the court suspects you were attempting to hide assets.
PAYING SOME CREDITORS AND NOT OTHERS
When you began to suffer from credit problems, there may have been one or two creditors who attempted to work with you in order to help you get your head above water. You may have a close relationship with a particular bank or loan agency and you don’t want them to lose money because of your mistakes.
You may think it would be an expression of goodwill to pay those creditors while ignoring those who were less-than-friendly when you began struggling can actually cause you problems during your bankruptcy proceedings.
These may be viewed as preferential transfers and the trustee can demand that the payments be returned to the bankruptcy estate, causing the creditor even more problems than if they had simply written the account off as part of your bankruptcy plan.
ADDING TO CREDIT CARD DEBT
Once you have made the decision to file bankruptcy, you should stop using credit cards completely. However, if you routinely used credit cards for regular expenses, such as groceries or gasoline, the trustee may allow those types of charges on cards even if you are including them in the bankruptcy.
Expensive items or anything expenditures on credit that are unusual are not permitted and could put your bankruptcy at risk. In most states, charges of more than $650 within 90 days of a bankruptcy filing are not permitted.
If you have a business dispute to resolve or if you feel that someone owes you money, do not file a lawsuit to recover that money before you file for bankruptcy. If the suit is settled prior to your bankruptcy discharge, any money you receive must be included as part of the bankruptcy estate.
The same is true regarding business partnerships. Do not enter into a business partnership or conclude any business transactions until your bankruptcy proceedings are complete. This includes bonuses you may receive from work, an inheritance or a tax refund. If you are expecting any of these additional forms of income, it may be necessary to delay your bankruptcy filing.
Bankruptcy laws differ by state which is why it is critical to talk to a bankruptcy attorney before deciding to file. An attorney can review your situation and provide you with the advice you need so that your filing goes smoothly and without any question of impropriety. Call us today or complete our contact form to learn if bankruptcy is right for you and what steps you should take to prepare for filing.
25-year-old South Sudanese Ford model Nykhor Paul took to Instagram to voice her frustration of the lack of preparedness with make-up for her skin tone in the fashion world.
Paul, who has appeared in high fashion shows for Calvin Klein and others get roundel up about the unprofessional makeup artists who tries to make her feel bad about her skin color when they are unprepared with cosmetic shades that matches her skin tone. She asks, “Why do I have to bring my own makeup to a professional show when all the other white girls don’t have to do anything but show up?”
Nykhor is also a well-known human rights activist so it comes to no surprise that she felt the need to speak up for what she believes in! You Go Gril!
“Dear white people in the fashion world!
Please don’t take this the wrong way but it’s time you people get your shit right when it comes to our complexion! Why do I have to bring my own makeup to a professional show when all the other white girls don’t have to do anything but show up wtf! Don’t try to make me feel bad because I am blue black its 2015 go to Mac, Bobbi Brown, Makeup forever, Iman cosmetic, black opal, even Lancôme and Clinique carried them plus so much more. there’s so much options our there for dark skin tones today. A good makeup artist would come prepare and do there research before coming to work because often time you know what to expect especially at a show! Stop apologizing it’s insulting and disrespectful to me and my race it doesn’t help, seriously! Make an effort at least! That goes for NYC, London, Milan, Paris and Cape Town plus everywhere else that have issues with black skin tones. Just because you only book a few of us doesn’t mean you have the right to make us look ratchet. I’m tired of complaining about not getting book as a black model and I’m definitely super tired of apologizing for my blackness!!!! Fashion is art, art is never racist it should be inclusive of all not only white people, shit we started fashion in Africa and you modernize and copy it! Why can’t we be part of fashion fully and equally?”
Hopefully this will be an eye opener!
Baz Luhrmann’s The Get Down, a Netflix drama focused on a group of teens and hip-hop’s beginnings in the South Bronx, isn’t coming until 2016. Still, it’s not too early to start the hype.
Today (June 9) has been made better by Jaden Smith‘s return to social media. Will The Get Down be made better by him playing a role? We’ll see, but as of today, he’ll be part of the cast.
Jaden Smith the person doesn’t need a comeback, but Jaden Smith the actor definitely does. His last acting role was in After Earth, a critically panned film that stands as one of Will Smith’s biggest failures. Will peaked already, and at 16, Jaden hasn’t. So he should be fine.
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The season lovers live for but lonely singles despise.
If the cold weather hasn’t given it away, cuffing season is here and it is time to be “cuffed”. Unfamiliar with the seasonal holiday? According to Urban Dictionary, cuffing season occurs during Fall and Winter when people who are normally single or ‘promiscuous’ desire to be ‘Cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship.
The annual ‘girl’s night out’ or ‘bromance’ isn’t entertaining anymore? Well cuffing season is your chance to find a temporary lover to turn your dull cold nights into erotic love sessions.
But what happens when the weather warms up and Spring has arrived? For many, there is this unspoken understanding that once Spring arrives it’s on to the next. But what if you’re looking for something more, something…. long lasting.
Below you’ll find 5 steps to turn a temporary relationship into a long term relationship :
5.) What’s Really Good.
Before cuffing the individual think about what YOU want to get out of the relationship. Take a minute to get your mind right and decide what you are looking to establish. Thinking about your motives before hand allows you to direct the relationship accordingly. If you’re looking for something more than a sex buddy, be honest! Don’t be afraid to make it known you’re looking for a long-term commitment. Honestly is the key to any relationship!
4.) Be Picky.
You’re a nice looking person, don’t feel you have to settle for the first person that comes your way. Sort through the options and decide who is really worth your time, energy and affection. Be weary of reoccurring options that may pop up out of thin air. Revisit the reasons why it didn’t work the first time. Based upon previous encounters, decide whether the individual is worth giving another chance. Weighing the pros and cons of the available options will certainly help with discovering the reals from the fakes.
3.) Take It Nice And Slow.
Take your time! What’s the rush? If you’re truly looking to establish a genuine relationship, take time out to learn about the individual. Allow time for your friendship to develop naturally instead of forcing a relationship that is not meant to be.
2.) Show Me So I know It’s Real.
Just because it’s cuffing season doesn’t mean you can’t impress your partner with true affection. Don’t be guilty of being a lazy lover. If you’re aiming to establish a special bond, impress your potential partner with the true you! Make time to go out on dates every so often to keep the relationship fresh and new. Prevent the unfortunate circumstance of becoming bored with each other by engaging in new activities.
1.) On To The Next: Un-Cuffing
Followed these steps but it isn’t exactly working out? That’s fine! Don’t be afraid to let the relationship go if it isn’t owning up to what you expect and deserve. Alleviate unnecessary stress by being honest with yourself and your cuffing partner. Simply let the person know how you’re feeling so you can move on with a clean slate.
Words by: Taisje Claiborne |Twitter|
Valentines Day is the time of year when the ” real men” are weeded out from “the boys.” It is the ever so reliable day when relationships of convenience can be deciphered from real love connections. You may be thinking I am taking a dramatic postion and putting EXTREME emphasis on a made up and “insignificant “holiday, but it’s quite the contrary! Think about it .. Valentines Day and all holidays for that matter seem to be the time of the year when relationships can take a turn for the better or sometimes for the worst. You know how ‘people do’, if they are “not that into you ,” weeks before a major holiday the calls slow up, the text diminish and slowly but surely you find your self wondering-“is something wrong?” If you ever asked yourself this question, 9.5 times out of 10 the answer is NO! You have simply and unknowingly been entered into the “avoidance zone.”
What is the ‘avoidance zone’ you ask? It’s a simple and clear zone where one’s significant other falls back to avoid their partner. In the case of holidays, the ‘avoidance zone’ is most likely not due to any fault of your own. Your partner MAY just be telling you they are not that into you , or that there is someone else who holds the’ leading role’ in their heart!!!
Some of the signs that your significant other is avoiding valentines day can be crystal clear , where as others can get creative. Thankfully for you “suspicious” lovers out there, I’ve complied a list of 5 ways to tell if he or she is avoiding valentines day:
1) They avoid the subject all together
2) They stop calling or become suddenly busy weeks before the holiday
3) They’re suddenly sick on February 13th
4) They suddenly become religious and its now against their religion
5) They say “every day ” is valentines day , hoping your not expecting something
“Rise above the little things.” – Author Unknown
One of the most stressful things in life is when you allow yourself to get caught up in things that don’t matter. As we approach the new year, do your best to deflect the negative. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted by pettiness. Instead, stay focused on the positive, be better and think BIGGER.
Hate is misguided love. ~Author Unknown
Often times, “haters” actually admire you but because they are unwilling or incapable of creating their own success, they envy yours. Instead of responding to their negativity, continue to focus on your goals. Hate is simply misguided love, don’t take it personal.
“Losers visualize the penalties of failure. Winners visualize the rewards of success.” – Unknown
Fear and failure work hand in hand just like faith and success work hand in hand. Focus less on the obstacles and more on achieving your goal. Remember, every thought has the potential to become your reality. Instead of fearing the worst that could happen, give your attention to a positive outcome.
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” -Wayne Dyer
It can be so hard to keep your mind focused on the positive, especially when you find yourself in a negative environment. However, you should never let people or circumstances steal your joy. Happiness is a choice and putting yourself in a good mood is simply a matter of a made up mind. Today, CHOOSE to be happy and you will be.