The best thing I have ever done was creating “Abstinenece is Kool!” So many young girls have been inspired to give up sex for the school year! It’s amazing how the “AIK” movement is growing each day. Right now read a “heartfelt” email from one of my “AIK” girls…have tissue because this email is sure to bring you to tears!
“In this letter im not going to sugar coat ANYTHING, Im going to keep it 100% real with yall & let yall know the dirty truth about having sex. Now with that said, My name is Shadea Murphy, I am 14 years old and already had 5 sex partners. I started in the 6th grade. In 6th grade I shouldve still been playing with barbies not out there havin sex. I never had anbody to tell me that, so at the time I thought it was fine. I kept it a secret from my mom for about a year until the word got around town that I was having sex and eventually got back to her. She was upset but she never once told me to stop or slow down, she just took me to the clinic for some birth control and told me to “Be Safe”. Now I dont fault her for that I just wished she would of told me to take my time or to wait, If she would of said that to me maybe I wouldnt have ended up where im at now. My friends also didnt help me either, they tholught it was cute & encouraged me to have sex, not stop me. So with no encouragment to stop, I continued to have sex & hook up with people and by my freshman year I was known as the neighborhood whore. I began to feel the effects of having sex, like pregnancy scares and always getting talked about. I used to put on a front like I didnt care what people was saying about me or Its my life and people need to mind there business, but in all reality I felt like crying everytime I heard people were talking about me. It got so bad that some of my bestfriends didnt even want to hang out with me anymore. With all that going on I still was having sex almost everyday. After I would get done having sex I would feel like crap but then a couple days later I would be on my back again letting another boy take advantage of me. It was like I just couldnt say no, But then this boy Maurice let me know I could say no. Maurice was an older boy around the neighborhood, at the time we didnt know eachother like that but he still had enough concern to pull me aside and tell me about myself. He just flat out told me that I was not on a good path right now, and that I needed to change my ways. When me and Maurice had our first talk, I was thinking like this dude doesnt even know me like that to be telling me im not on the right path. So I disregarded him and continued to do me. He got word that I was still having sex and once again he took me aside and had another talk with me. He said the same things but this time I really listened to him, I even cried at one point. Here this boy was that I hardly even known, had enough concern for me to try to get me on the right path when nobody else had. After that talk I changed my life around. I relized that I was a young lady and should have more respect for myself so I started to cut boys off, not talk to certain people and a lot of other things also. Many of the boys got mad and some didnt want anything to do with me anymore. But that didnt stop me it just made me stronger and showed who were really there for me. I stoped having sex on October 11th 2009, It has now been 5 months, Now thats not long but trust it will get longer. I heard about AIK on VH1 and I decided to take the pledge a few weeks ago. Since I was already not having sex I figured I’d pledge to gain support from fellow AIK girls.Without Maurice I would probably be doing the same thing and thats why Im writing this blog to let all you girls out there now that you are not alone and that its okay to say no. Sex is a very serious thing and just shouldnt be given to just anybody and by writing this blog I hope all you girls out there undersand that.”